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    okay all of u who have words of wisdom i need'em now

    two weeks ago one of my best friends decided she wants to die. She say she will kill herself by overdosin drugz (she's never taken ANY drugz eva but now she's buyin n pilin'em up for what she calls "the big day")
    all of us who know her n luv her r horrified -she says her decision is final n nuttin can change her mind. She doesn't have any problems, she says it' no one's fault, she just sees no point in life.
    She listens to gothic n death metal n she says that music "opened her eyes". i never thought music could have that much influence on someone but since she started listenin to gothic she just sinks deeper in depression! she worships Slipknot n Slayer n HIM n she believs that all of them will eventually commit suicide n then they'll all b together........
    we, her friends r with her all day tryin to talk her out of it but she just calls us idiots n says nuttin matters to her anymo.yesterday she got really pissed n said that if we don't let her do it da way she wants (drug overdose) she'll just jump out of da window or sumthin.........we luv her so much n she knows it, but she says luv don't mean shit to her n only pain is worth experiencin.......

    her parents think this is just a childish phase that will go away- but she's 22, she's no child!!!

    i'm really exhausted n desperate rite now, n i can't keep this problem to myself anymo ....i hoped this ...i don know what to say or do amymo ...on nov 3rd it will b 5 years since our friend killed herself n this girl says she don't wanna live to see that day this year....

    i'm very interested in hearin opinions of all u who listen to gothic, coz she says that people who r not into that culture can't understand what she's trin to do................CAN U?

    please help
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  • #2
    shit man! im really sorry to hear it! usually i can give advice on things but this is a really difficult one! man, i really dont know what 2 say! apart from never leave her alone right now she needs fiends, whether she says she does or not
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    • #3
      SHIT! THAT IS BAD HUN! I DUNNO WHAT 2 SAY! I MEAN I DON'T REALLY LISTEN 2 GOTHIC MUSIC AND STUFF BUT I WISH I COULD HELP. ALL I CAN SAY IS THAT PERSONALLY I DON'T BELIEVE THAT AT 22 YEARS OLD SHE WANNA END HER LIFE JUST COZA GOTHIC INFLUENCE. MAYBE SHES GOT OTHER PROBLEMS. I DON'T REALLY KNOW WHAT 2 SUGGEST BUT I GUESS I'D TALK 2 HER AND TRY 2 FIND OUT IF ANYTHING WAS AND THEN TRY 2 HELP HER WIT THOSE PROBLEMS. WHATEVER SHES GONNA NEED ALL HER FRIENDS 2 BE THERE 4 HER.
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      • #4
        im speechless....
        shit, im really sorry for you, it must be hell.
        normally i give good advice but I dont know what to
        say.....
        Except just keep talking to her, and talk to her
        about the positive and good things in life, and what
        shed lose if she killed herself.
        Just try to make her feel good about herself...just
        TRY and i know its hard to get her to talk her problems
        through and try to help her with them
        I know all this is easier said than done but just please
        TRY and talk to her....

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        • #5
          Maybe put her in a mental institute.

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          • #6
            okay this is what u gotta do
            she needs to snap outta this phase, make her see councelers and if she really needs it a phsycitrist. She need her friends and family always around next few weeks just so she dont do anything drastic. Everytime she tells you shes gunna kill herself you need to be firm with her, slap her if you have to. You have to tell her that life is precious and killing yourself is a waste, and you need to get her off the drugs...get her into rehab.
            Just be there for her, dont give up cos she needs you

            i hope everything turns out well
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            • #7
              ddaaammmnnn shit i'm soo sorry to hear that hun!just take her in a quite room,talk 2 her try go get through to her..stay in that room 4 hours at a time if thats what it takes.ask her y she REALLY thinks this is tha way out.tell her there is soo many people in this world that have really big problems and they still live in this world so there is no reason for her to kill herself.

              that what i think u should do just explain how bad sum people have it and how good she has it.
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              • #8
                She needs help and right away from the sound of it. Try talking to her parents (again if you have already) and if they aren't willing to help call a suicide hotline and explain the situation. They should be able to offer you some help. Good luck with this and remember, ultimately we are each responsible for own lives and whatever happens it is not your fault and at least you are trying to help. I hate to say that it is very hard to give help to someone who doesn't want it and this may be too much for you to take on your shoulders. Again, good luck and she is lucky to have you for a friend.

                T
                "I will go down with this ship
                And I won't put my hands up and surrender
                There will be no white flag above my door
                I'm in love and always will be "


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                • #9
                  I agree with Wildflower, it's good that you're trying to find ways to help her. I can't really offer any advice (since I'm kinda in the same position as you're friend), and it doesn't look like she'll open up, but I think you really gotta find what the real and main reason she wants to kill herself for is. Even though the music may be influencing her decision, I really don't think it can't be the actual reason. The best thing you can do is keep talking to her, show her she has lots of friends who care about her and don't want to see her leave them, and try to get her to seek help herself.

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                  • #10
                    ill say she needs allot of of help and support from whoever she can...sorri this is happening...get her aside n have and talk to her...tell her to give her reason for this she mite have some problems that she has on her mind n shit so get her to expose it...as fo listenign to slip knot n dat i listen to it sometimes but try to get her listening to some other shit i dotn know how u can but the condition shes in thats the last pplz u want her listening to coz if she feels that way shell kinda brainwash herself....i cant give much advice just stik with her n b b side her she needs you....shell say shes fine she can handle this herslf but she cant u gotta just b patient no matter how tough things get..its gonna b even harder then it already is n if soon she says she hates ya herslelf n eveyone else then thats the point when she needs professional halp...if ya needa talk or n e other advice pm aitte

                    -jana

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                    • #11
                      dunno what to say...

                      sorry about that but i always said that ppl who listen to gothic and shit are acting stupid...

                      there is this girl here who cuts herself constantly does drugs, wears black, eats nothing, luvs to get beaten when having sex..shit like that...

                      and now her arm is about as fat as my wrist is, no jokes...

                      get her out of this shit right now...

                      -Alx
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                      • #12
                        thanx every1 for support

                        i did call da suicide hotline, what they said was "leave her alone, she just wants attention" can u believe that?!?!!!

                        but we didn't leave her alone, i think we made sum progress cause she threw away her pill collection n agreed to start counselin next week...she's still very mean (she said, when da shrink hears her side of da story HE'll becum a satanist too) n grouchy but i hope that'll change too

                        it's been hell seein her that way, she's oldest in our crew n has always been happy n optimistic -until a year ago, when she discovered gothic n then she started havin depressions just for "what Ville said in which song"...but it got hell worse when HIM's new album came out, she spent days in her room (painted da walls black!!) spinnin that album n plannin details of her funeral (Brrr...) i'm not sayin only music is da problem (i heard da same album n i only felt bored) but depressive music obviously can trigger sum emotions, deepen da problem that's already there...i hope she'll trust her shrink enuff to tell what da REAL problem was, cause i want my friend happy as she used to be!!!
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                        • #13
                          I can only give u my advice, but i can understand the pain at the moment man this sux! You have nuttin to loose keep talkin to her rather than leaving her to end it. People have gotta fight depression i dont wanna fight it but u might as well, even tho going thru the pain seems worse u gotta hold on for other people's sake. You can only try your hardest i wish i could help more, really i would love to talk with your friend myself, but i guess i can't. Do not take this out on yaself, u be strong u gotta help all u can which i am sure u are- i will certainly pray and keep on doin so-ellie
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                          • #14
                            do ANYTHING 2 stop her and make 2 make her change her mind!! take her to a specialist (i dunno how to spell it)
                            just do something!!!
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                            • #15
                              I'm sorry to hear you got such crappy advice from the suicide hotline, however, those are usually manned by volunteers and I think you got a bad one.

                              I'm glad ya'll are persevering in your attempts to help your friend. I do want to say though from the things you are saying about the drastic change in character that it reminds of one of two things, either she is suffering from clinical depression, which means her brain chemistry is off or she is on drugs. I really hope you can get her to seek the help she needs, which really is a professional. Her family doctor would be the place to start.

                              Just hang in there and do the best you can. Like I said before though, you can't make someone change or seek help. They have to want it themselves first.

                              Good luck
                              T
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                              And I won't put my hands up and surrender
                              There will be no white flag above my door
                              I'm in love and always will be "


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